(No) Conclusions: Don’t Kill Yr Darlings, Exorcize Yr DMERs There is no end to DMER.  This is the strange thing all the articles talk about without truly talking about it. Since DMER is a completely physiological condition, once the stimulus is removed (lactation or nipple stimulation of any kind), then the symptoms go away. Every… Read more

After reading so many articles, I finally devised the perfect structure for dealing with DMER. This is the coalescence of those 100,000 words before me, rendered into a single formula, the answer to that all consuming question: How do you survive DMER? You chant. Then you tell another story.  That’s it.  You distract yourself from… Read more

History is a friend of mine (especially when I had none) One of the best pieces of advice that I’ve found in my extensive reading of self-help books is this: remember who you were before all of this started.  The “this” in most cases is trauma. Stress. Strife. The exact cause doesn’t matter, because pain… Read more

Your silence will not protect you  (or a complicated note on care) When I was hospitalized at fifteen, I learned a really important lesson about asking for help. If you don’t ask, you will not get it.  This might seem rather strange for a fifteen year old to realize, especially while hospitalized, but the section… Read more

Organize your (doom) thoughts by color  When I understood the connection to rumination and DMER, I immediately wanted to stop all forms of thinking. This is obviously easier said than done. It’s also not possible.  We have somewhere around 50,000 thoughts a day. A day! Most of these thoughts are barely registered, all on the… Read more